Sunday, September 12, 2010

When did I get old?

I have friends from many walks of life. Different ages, races, religions, and species make up my facebook friend page. Even with this being the case I've come to realize that the majority of my close friends are older than me. Why? Recently I keep finding myself in situations with friends of friends that are in their early twenties. I was trying to figure out why I usually like the people but they can quickly get on my nerves. Am I just a crotchety, cranky old person? Am I ageist? Does their youth offend me? Now that I'm so aware of it I'm sure people must feel this way about me as well. It makes me overly conscious of the level of maturity I'm projecting even while hanging out at the bar. How can this be when I'm still young?

Last night I was out with, well, a bunch of people throughout the course of the night. Earlier on and up until about 1am I was with some of my favorite people alive. I probably drank a little too much vodka and whisky at the drag show before moving on the the late night group but that can't be the whole reason I'm cranky and old. I met up with a person that is becoming a good friend and two younger girls that I don't know very well but usually enjoy. I had a very good time when the numbers were low. We played a little pool and danced a bit. Then we went to an all night cafe where another two young girls (friends of our friends) worked and suddenly I was annoyed. Too much youth. Annoying conversation. I got bitchy. At the time I didn't think it was an age thing. I just thought everyone was obnoxious. It was later when I was trying to explain my discomfort to my boyfriend that he pointed out I'm older than them and therefore, don't enjoy the same "fun" things. I still don't know what that comment means. So basically this is the first time in my life where I was told to my face that I'm not young anymore. It sucked. I have found a way to deal with it though! I have decided to get rid of all people in my life that know and associate with people younger than me. That way I am eternally youthful and never have to worry about this again. I think this also means I have to get rid of my boyfriend. He shouldn't have called me old.

Okay, I won't be that extreme but thanks for letting me vent.

13 comments:

Dana said...

Ehhh ... I think it has more to do with maturity than it does age. Unfortunately, most people in their early/mid 20's are pretty damn immature, but not to worry, there are plenty in their mid 40's who are equally immature.

See? You're not old ... your MATURE!

Tall Lanky Jew said...

Like fine wine, but without the staining power.

Reb said...

I am like that. I have mostly older friends and it has been that way most of my life. I like mature minds, as long as they aren't stodgy, or narrow. A few younger people come along that have become friends, like yourself, that are smart and funny and are able to talk about things beyond the newest music, boyfriends and hairstyles. I had enough of that in high school.

kcinnova said...

I'm like Reb and have a lot of older friends. I want to be around people who can talk about more than the latest fad. Ten years ago I was rounding my age up just so I didn't seem so young! Now, however, I can't seem to keep a train of thought on the track, so I no longer lie about my age; I simply SOUND older than I am.
Um, what were we talking about?

Dianne said...

I pretty much agree with what the others said
it's not an age thing, it's a maturity thing
I wouldn't worry about it unless you truly feel you're missing out on something
sounds to me like you're having fun and going out
you're just not acting like a kid and how can that be a bad thing?

Jay said...

"I have decided to get rid of all people in my life that know and associate with people younger than me."

So that means you will be hanging out with me???? ;-)

Micky-T said...

I don't think your even as old as what we old people dream of, if we could be younger.

Just keep growing!

Farmer*swife a/k/a Glass_Half_Full said...

He didn't call you old, he just called them young and immature. :-D

Mike said...

When you were ten years younger did you want to hang out with people ten years younger yet? All this means is that the group of people younger than you is getting larger. Stay in your own age group or older. You'll learn more.

And if a younger person wants to hang out, bring them up to your level, don't go back to theirs.

LL said...

Ah my dear Knight... you have finally reached the realization that everyone does eventually... What is that you ask? Why, simply this... that youth is wasted on the young. :ewink:

Take heart my dear... the older you get, the more patient you'll become with the barely 21 crowd. You've been there, done all that, had stupid fun, and now you want more. Nothing wrong with that.

GMEyster said...

Being young is overrated in so many ways. Don't mean that as rude, but I find that I get taken seriously more now, and don't let things bug me as much as when I cared more about what people thought of me, which, for me, was hung up in my inexperience. I am routinely older than many people I hang out with, or who I have hung out with, and there are always exceptions to the rule. You have always been one of them, you young thing you.

Both Sides of Ben Marlan said...

no goofy pet names. never call you old. got it..

Leigh said...

Age is a state of mind. I don't feel "old" but my increasing impatience with youth these days points to the fact that I probably do need to start saving for Depends and a walker.
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